Weoftenfocusonbuildingrelationshipswithothersthatweforgettheessentialfirststep:beingfriendsofourselves._____【小题1】___.Howcanwehavegoodrelationshipswithothersifwedon’tevenhavegoodrelationshipswithourselves?

Theproblemmightbeworsethanweexpect.Maybewedon’tlikeourselveswithoutrealizingit.Hereisasimplechecklist:Isthereanythingyoudon’tlikeaboutyourselffromtheselists?

Yourpast: Maybeyouhavemademistakesinthepastwhichyoufeelbadabout.___【小题2】___.Evenifthathappenedindistantpastyoursubconsciousmindstillhasareasonnottolikeyourself.

Yourbackground: Youmightwishthatyouwerebornindifferentfamilyorthatyouhavedifferentbackground.____【小题3】_____.Theyseemtogetwhatevertheywanteffortlesslybecauseoftheirbackground.

Yourpersonaltraits(特点): Youmighthavesomepersonalitytraitsthatyoudon’tlike.Forexampleyoumaybeanintrovert(内向)andyoudon’tlikeit;youwishyouwereanextrovert.

Othersmighthavebetterachievementsthanyouandnomatterhowhardyoutrieditmightseemimpossibleforyoutomatchthem.______【小题4】______.Isthereanythingthatresonate(产生共鸣)withyou?Allthesegivereasonstoyounottolikeyourself.Thatinturnmakesitdifficultforyoutobeagoodfriendtoyourself.

______【小题5】______.Herearesometips:

Forgiveyourself

Acceptthingsyoucan’tchange

Focusonyourstrengths

Writeyoursuccessstories

Stopcomparingyourselfwithothers

Alwaysbetruetoyourself

A．Thatisthecrucial(关键)firststepifwearetohavegoodrelationshipswithothersB．Youmightthenthinkthatit’sbecauseyouarenotsmartenoughordon’thaveenoughtalentsC．YoucandosomethingtoimprovetherelationshipswithothersD．FortunatelytherearealwaysthingsyoucandotofixthesituationE.Youmightbedisappointedwithyourselfonwhyyoumakesuchmistakes

F.Sometimesyoumightnotbelieveyourself

G.Maybeyoucouldnotacceptthefactthatyouarenotasluckyasothers