What I remember most about visiting my boyfriend's parents is the loud tick of the clock in the dinner room as we silently ate our meal．With so little conversation I was quick to regard his family as cold．When we got into the car to go home，his father suddenly appeared．Carefully，he began to wash the car's windscreen．I could feel he was a caring man through the glass．

I learned another lesson about the ways of showing love．My father often telephoned me early in the morning．"Buy Printer．It's a good sharp price，"he might say when I answered the phone．No pleasant greeting or inquiry about my life，just financial instructions．We often quarreled about it．But one day，I thought about my father's success in business and realized that his concern for my financial security lay behind his short morning calls．The next time he called and told me to buy a stock，I thanked him．

When my social style conflicted with that of my friends，I often felt disappointed．For example，I always returned phone calls without delay and regularly contacted with my friends．I expected the same from them．I had one friend called Ailsa who rarely called，answering my messages with short e-mails．I rushed to that judgment：She wasn't a good friend!My anger grew as the holidays approached．But then she came to a gathering I hosted and handed me a beautiful dress I had fallen in love with when we did some window-shopping the previous month．I was shocked at her thoughtfulness．Clearly I needed to change my expectation of friends．

81．What did the author hear when eating meal with her boyfriend's parents？（No more than 11words）___

82．Why did the author's father often give her morning calls？（No more than 9words）___

83．How did Ailsa change the author's judgment about herself？（No more than 8words）

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84．What's the passage mainly about？（No more than 9words）___．