Goodcommunicationisvitalinmodernsociety.Weknowthatmuchofthecommunicationisunspoken.Consciouslyorunconsciouslyweshowourtruefeelingswithoureyesfacesbodiesandattitudes.Yourgoodqualitiescanmakegoodcommunication.Thepersonalqualitiesinclude:physicalappearanceenergyrateofspeechpitchandtoneofvoicegesturesexpressivenessofeyesandtheabilitytoholdtheinterestofothers.
Whatshouldwedosothatourcommunicationwillbeeffective?Herearemysuggestions.
Firstlyyoushouldbeyourself.Themosteffectivepeopleneverchangecharacterfromonesituationtoanother.They'rethesamewhetherthey'rehavingaconversationwiththeirclosefriendsaddressingtheirgardencluborbeinginterviewedforajob.Theycommunicatewiththeirwholebeing.
Secondlywhetheryou'retalkingtoonepersonoronehundredalwaysremembertolookatthem.Don'tbreakeyecontactwhiletalking.Asyouenteraroommoveyoureyescomfortablythenlookdirectlyatthoseintheroomandsmile.Thisshowsclearlythatyouareatease.Smilingisimportant.Thebesttypeofsmileandeyecontactisgentleandcomfortablenotforced.
Youshouldalsoabsorbotherpeoplebeforeshowingyourself.Youcan'tlearnanythingwhenyoutalk.Whenyouattendameetingapartyoraninterviewdon'timmediatelystartthrowingyouropinions.Stopforasecond.Absorbwhat'sgoingon.What'sthemoodoftheothers—aretheydownuphappyorexpectant?Aretheyeagertolearnfromyouordotheyshowresistance?Ifyoucansensewhat'shappeningwithothersyouwillbebetterabletoreachthem.Solistenbeforeyoutalk.
Thefourthsuggestionisthatyoufocusyourenergy.Howdoyougetyourenergyup?Beforethemeetingcollectyourthoughtsaboutthegoalofthemeeting—yoursandtheother's.Onceyougothroughthedoorwaynolongerthinkaboutyourself.Focusonthepersonyouaremeetingtofindoutwhatheisinterestedin.Properlycollectedenergycomesacrosswhenwesincerelybelievesomething.Whenyouspeakwithenergyyouareinvolvedwithyouraudienceandyourmessage.Youcreateanairofcertainty.Theaudiencemaydisagreewithyoubuttheycan'tquestionyourbelief.
LastlyIwouldliketoremindyouthatyoushouldlightenup.Takeagoodhardlookatyourse