英语翻译

Whendopeopledecidewhetherornottheywanttobecomefriends?Duringtheirfirstfourminutestogether,accordingtoabookbyDr.LeonardZunin.Inthebook,Contact:TheFirstFourMinutes,heoffersthisadvicetoanyoneinterestedinstartingnewfriendships:Everytimeyoumeetsomeoneinasocialsituation,givehimyourundividedattentionforfourminutes.Alotofpeople’swholeliveswouldchangeiftheydidjustthat.

Whenweareintroducedtonewpeople,theauthorsuggestsweshouldtrytoappearfriendlyandself-confident.Ingeneral,hesays,:Peoplelikepeoplewholikethemselves.

Ontheotherhand,weshouldnotmakethepersonthinkwearetoosureofourselves.Itisimportanttoappearinterestedandsympathetic,realizingthattheotherpersonhashisownneeds,fearsandhopes.

Butisn’titdishonesttogivetheappearanceoffriendlyself-confidencewhenwewon’tactuallyfeelthatway?Perhaps,butaccordingtoDr.Zunin,“totalhonesty”isnotalwaysgoodforsocialrelationships,especiallyduringthefirstfewminutesofcontact.Thereistimeforeverything,andacertainamountofplayingtocomplainaboutone’shealthortomentionfaultsonefindsinotherpeople.Itisnotthetimetotellthewholetruthaboutone’sopinionsandimpressions,

Theauthordeclaresthatinterpersonalrelationsshouldbetaughtasarequiredcourseineveryschool,alongwithreading,writing,andmathematics.Inhisopinion,successinlifedependsmainlyonhowwegetalongwithotherpeople.Thatisatleastasimportantashoemuchweknow.