WhatisyourRecoveryRate? 　　byGrahamandJulieHarris 　　Whatisyourrecoveryrate?Howlongdoesittakeyoutorecoverfromactionsandbehavioursthatupsetyou?Minutes?Hours?Days?Weeks?Howlong?Thelongerittakesyoutorecoverthemoreinfluencethatincidenthasonyouractions,thelessableyouaretoperformtoyourpersonalbest.Inanutshellthelongerittakesyoutorecovertheweakeryouareandthepooreryourperformance. 　　Justaskyourself: 　　HowmanytimeshaveIgotupsetwithmyspouseorpartnerforsomethingthechildrendidhoursago? 　　HowmanytimeshaveImissedanopportunitybecauseIwasstillfocusedonanupsetandallIcouldsaywas‘NO’toeverything? 　　HowmanytimeshaveIdrivenmycarerraticallybecauseIwasstillthinkingofanincidentthatmademeangry? 　　Thepointis:apoorrecoveryrateaffectsyourhealth.Apoorrecoveryrateaffectsyourwellbeing.Apoorrecoveryratestopsyoufromlivingtoyourpotential. 　　Youarewellawarethatyouneedtoexercisetokeepthebodyfitand,nodoubt,acceptthatareasonablemeasureofhealthisthespeedinwhichyourheartandrespiratorysystemrecoversafterexercise.Likewisethefasteryouletgoofanissuethatupsetsyou,thefasteryoureturntoanequilibriumthehealthieryouwillbe.Thebestexampleofthisbehaviourisfoundwithprofessionalsportspeople.Theyknowthatthefastertheycanforgetanincidentormissedopportunityandgetonwiththegamethebettertheirperformance.Infact,mostmeasurethetimeittakesthemtoovercomeandforgetanincidentinagameandmostreckonarecoveryrateof30secondsistoolong! 　　Howlongdoesittakeyoutorecoverandovercomeandforgetanincidentatworkorathome? 　　AmethodthatIandmanyothersusetohelpusreducetherecoverytimeisthemethodoftheFULLSTOP. 　　Imagineyourselftobeanactorinaplayonthestage.Youraimistoplayyourparttothebestofyourability.Youhavebeengivenascriptandattheendofeachsentenceisafullstop.Eachtimeyougettotheendofthesentenceyoustartanewoneandalthoughthenextsentenceisrelatedtothelastitisnotaffectedbyit.Yourjobistodelivereachsentencetothebestofyourability. 　　Nowthinkaboutyourlife.Imaginelifeisnomorethanaplay,adramaandweeachhavearoletoplayinthatdrama.Yourjobistoplayyourparttothebestofyourabilityandthebetteryouplayyourpartthemorechancethatyouwillinspireothersaroundyoutoimprovetheirperformance.Eachincidentyoufaceisanewsentence.Justputafullstopbehinditandstartagain.Acceptthateverytimeyoumeetsomeoneorhaveaconversationwithapersononthetelephoneorevensendanemailitisanewincident.Youhavebothmovedonsinceyoulastmet,sorememberingthelastoccasiononlykeepsyouinthepastandstopsyoumovingforwardandstopsyouseeingnewopportunities.Thenexttimeyouseethepersonthatupsetyou,oryouupset,isanewoccasion.Thereisnothingtobegainedbycontinuingfromwhereyouleftoff.Theincidenthasfinished.Youarebothinadifferentplacenow.Itisanewsentencesostartagain. 　　Mygrandmotherusedtocallitdestiny.“Acceptwhathashappenedaspartofyourdestinyandlivewithit”,wasafavouritephraseofhers.Youcannotchangewhathashappened.Sulkingorbroodingwillnothelp.Analysingwillonlygiveyouaheadacheandkeepitfreshinyourmind.Inthesamewaythatyoucannotenterthesamer