Thinkforaminute.Whenyourrelationshipwithyourspouse(配偶)hitsarockypatchdoyousayhe’sloblame?Ifyouhaveahaddayatwork，isitbecauseyouhavea“hardboss”?Ifeverythingthathappensinyourlifeissomeoneelse

Thinkforaminute.Whenyourrelationshipwithyourspouse(配偶)hitsarockypatchdoyousayhe’sloblame?Ifyouhaveahaddayatwork，isitbecauseyouhavea“hardboss”?Ifeverythingthathappensinyourlifeissomeoneelse’sfaultJohnMillerpersonalresponsibilityexpertandauthorofQBQ(TheQuestionBehindtheQuestion)saysyoumaybeteachingyourteentoplaytheblamegame.

Ifyourlifecentersaroundfingerpointingpersonallyyou’renotaccountable—you’replayingtheblamegame.Areyoulatetoworkonlybecauseofyourkids?Ifyou’repassedoverforapromotionitisbecauseyourbossisa“jerk(蠢人)”？Thoughtslikethoseareclassicsignsoftheblamegame.

Parentswhoconstantlypointfingersdon’tjustdoittotheirspousesco-workersandfriends.Theydoittotheirchildrentoo.

PaulaJacksonamotheroftwoinAtlanta，saysshe’salwaysfoundawaytogetoutofthingsbyblamingotherpeople.She’sfoundthatmostofthetimetheblamefallsonherchildren.“Evenifit’ssomethingIknowI’mresponsibleforI’11findmyselfsaying‘Ohmykidsdidthis’or‘Theydidn’tdothat’”shesays.

Millersayswhenparentsdon’tacceptresponsibilityitcausesthemtolosetheireffectivenessasrolemodelsfortheirteens.“Astheprimaryrolemodelsforourteenswhenwebehavepoorlybyblamingandcomplainingwearemissingthechancetohaveapositiveandpowerfulimpactonourkids”hesays.“Whenwedon’tacceptresponsibilityandourkidsseethatthentheydon’thavetoacceptresponsibility.”

25.Youmaybeteachingyourteenloplaytheblamegamewhenyou .

A.blameyourchildrenoften

B.blameothersforsomethingwrong

C.takefullresponsibilityforyourself

D.quarrelwithyourspouse

26.Whatdoweknowaboutparentswhoconstantlypointfingers?

A.Theyseldompointfingerstotheirchildren.

B.Theyareeasytoblamethemselves.

C.Theycaneasilyblametheirchildrentoo.

D.Theygetonwellwiththeirchildren.

27.PaulaJacksonismentionedinthefourthparagraphasonewho .

A.oftenplaystheblamegame

B.doesn’tadmitplayingtheblamegame

C.hasagoodwaytogetoutofthings

D.exp